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Friday 1 February 2013

Change

I've been thinking a lot about change, the ways people change, what kinds of change are necessary and the differences between good and bad change. As humans, I think we are always changing or at least striving to change something about ourselves. Change is the only constant in our lives. The most important change, I think, is the changes you make in yourself. They're the most necessary changes in my mind.

So often it seems that most people want to change something physical about themselves, whether it's bad skin or weight or hair colour. It's natural; we all have things we don't like about ourselves at times, it's part of being a person. I think the most important change, though, is the change inside. This is the change we don't hear about as much as a change to the outside of a person. The physical change, the change to make yourself look a certain way  is the one that's talked about most, that seems to be valued most by society.

I think the change that we all need to focus on is the change within rather than the change on the outside. It's our thoughts that need to change above all else. If you can't accept something about your looks then you can change it quite easily for the most part. I think that you need to do it for the right reasons, though. I think that you need to accept that looking a certain way is okay, your physical looks are how they are, you can't physically change them that much. That's why I think it's important to work at changing the thoughts you have first. Acceptance of yourself as you are first of all is what needs to come first of all.

Previously I've held the attitude that acceptance should occur rather than change. I was very clear in my mind that people should accept themselves and that should be it. I've realised now that the acceptance just needs to come first. If you can accept that you are a certain way and that's okay, but still want to change something about it for your own personal happiness then that is something that needs to change. People change no matter what, it's the form of the change that matters. Change needs to happen for a person's mental heath, nothing else.